Do You Know the Three Keys to Integration?
You’ve undoubtedly heard the old saying, “Practice makes perfect.” Well, sometimes the simplest adages are the best ones. Here at 4Q Boundaries, we believe that repetition, patience, and reflection are the keys if you really want to master something and integrate it into your life.
Think about how you learned to ride a bicycle. You probably practiced in a safe environment with the help of someone to guide you. You may have crashed a few times, but after enough repetition, you mastered it, and then you went out into the world without anyone holding the handlebars.
It was probably the same thing when you learned how to drive a car (minus the crashing, hopefully) or when you learned the alphabet or multiplication tables. Repetition, patience, and reflection on your mistakes got you to your ultimate goal.
You repeated the sequence over and over until it became second nature—until you didn’t have to think about what you were doing consciously. It’s very much the same principle when it comes to emotions.
When you were a baby, were you able to express yourself as clearly as you can now? Of course not. But through repetition, you were eventually able to learn what you were feeling. Anger, sadness, joy, and love: you felt all these emotions over and over until you were able to label them and articulate your feelings with descriptive language easily.
Our goal at 4Q Boundaries is to create the environments you need to have a repeatable journey inward. We want you to be able to explore the various levels of you—the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual you. When you listen to the same audio recordings daily, you will learn through repetition.
At the same time, what is unique to our program is that each time you close your eyes, the experience will be different. This is where learning through patience and reflection comes into play. You do not need some sort of mental checklist to identify what you are experiencing. Rather, you are learning through experiencing the current moment, comparing your previous experiences to your present one.
Through this comparison, you will start distinguishing all the different sensations you experience in meditation. For example, you will be able to:
For many, the biggest challenge with any meditation journey is recognizing that the body is addicted to stimuli. We have been taught and conditioned to overcome unwanted stimuli by burying them. But this buried stimuli has value—it’s called wisdom. And by clearing the emotional charge that causes us to bury it in the first place, we can bring it to a place where we can learn from it and use it.
Our fundamental human nature is to survive, and this fight or flight and freeze mechanism is there to help us avoid discomfort or pain. While this would be all well and good if we still possessed an animal brain, our conscious awareness requires a different skill set.
As we evolved on a physical level and our brains became more complex, so too did our connection to our emotional, mental, and spiritual bodies. We, as humans, now require self-exploration, grounding, and meditation—any tools that allow us to utilize, increase, and integrate our consciousness into our daily lives. By relaxing our thoughts and feelings, we will be able to receive the answers to the questions we seek.
But relaxing is counterintuitive to what society teaches us. We are taught never to slow down, never take a break, and just keep working until we reach exhaustion. And when that happens, what do we do? We experience what is commonly referred to as “burn-out.” We become so mentally stressed that it starts to affect our physical body (or vice-versa).
We might seek professional medical help, or turn to harmful substances such as drugs or alcohol. At 4Q Boundaries, we provide you with tools and techniques to ensure that things never get that far. We teach you how to make your unconscious conscious, through repetition, patience, and reflection. We can provide you with preventative maintenance or supplemental care.
Come with us; we’ll show you how to do it.