Do You Want to OWN Your Life's Journey?
Use Grounding as the Bedrock of Your Life
And Chart the Course You Always Dreamed Of
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The Tough Questions We All Ask Ourselves
Have you ever asked yourself one of the following questions?
- Who am I?
- What does it all mean?
- What am I meant to do?
- Who are my real friends? Do I even have any real friends?
- What relationships do I want in my life?
- Why does my marriage feel off?
- Why do my children seem distant?
- Why am I working at my current job?
- How did this end even up being my career?
- What if I had done it differently?
These are incredibly introspective questions. And when a person isn’t properly centered, they can be difficult, or even painful, to answer. But what does “being centered” even mean? When someone talks about being centered, what they’re talking about is grounding.
How Is a Grounded Person Different From an Ungrounded Person?
A core difference between a grounded and ungrounded person is that the grounded person knows how to set their personal boundaries. While both groups understand the importance of decision-making, the grounded person knows the significance of owning the outcome of those decisions.
The grounded person knows that life is a journey and that the journey is often more important than the destination. They also know that changing course mid-direction is not only possible but also a natural part of the voyage. If you’ve ever set out on a long road trip or planned the itinerary for a vacation, would you expect to strictly stick to the original plan? Of course not. Why is it then that so many people feel unable to change the plan of their lives?
There are several reasons why one might not be good at owning their life’s journey. Often, the person is just in denial. At other times, they have come to a place of apathy and don’t want anyone to rock their boat. It could be that they do not believe themselves worthy of having the things they truly desire. Perhaps a lack of self-confidence. Complacency: waiting to graduate, waiting for a promotion, waiting for the ideal time to take the trip, waiting for the kids to move out, waiting for retirement.
Which Type of Person Are You Going to Be?
So, where are you in regard to owning your life’s journey? Are you taking adequate actions to determine the trajectory of your own life? To find out, look at the questions above. Do you struggle to find the answers, or do the answers make you uncomfortable? You may have a grounding issue.
Remember, we are spiritual beings inhabiting a physical form. Our physical form is influenced not only by the atoms that create us but by the energies that connect us. The physical form is coupled to an emotional body, a mental body, and a spiritual body. These three forms are what connect us to the past, present, future, and alternative realities.
Without proper grounding, we may not be able to determine the present moment and forecast the outcome of our actions. Do not focus on what is behind you, and do not overly dwell on what is ahead of you. The only thing that matters—the only thing you have control over—is what you do here and now, in this exact moment.
This is a clichéd statement which might seem like common sense to many. But I challenge you to deeply examine yourself to see if you are not guilty of dwelling on things that—objectively—have nothing to do with your current situation and trajectory.
Far too often, we like to blame outside influences for our own situations. It could be our parents, our upbringing, our boss, our spouse, our salary, the economy, or some other poor decision we made in the past. For most people, the arrow of blame will point at all possible things before it points to the thing most responsible: ourselves.